It has been a while since I engaged myself in writing down something. I would say it might be the hustle factor even though one can’t just miss an opportunity to scribble down a thing or two. That aside, a lot has happened, am talking changes and growth everywhere. A couple days ago, I witnessed a shocking incident where my colleague committed suicide by setting herself and her two kids ablaze in her house due to what is purported to be a marital dispute. I get it, at times the pain can be that unbearable but taking one life? That’s a little over the board. This got me thinking about what an obnoxious relationship can do to you.
Let’s talk about anything relationship. Am posing a question as to what exactly a good relationship entails. I know it is more a cliche with an indefinite answer and that is the beauty of it. Self proclaimed life coaches like myself tend to come up with this mirage of things people should do or not about everything relationship. Am pointing out that, that is utterly wrong. When two meet and see fit to get into something, they deal with a lot, talk of compatibility issues, baggage and so forth. I tend to believe that if they can work around most of those, probably they can make their ‘thing’ work. We all possess bunches of flaws and I think it would be wiser if only we understood them so that next time we get quick in pointing out specks in other peoples eyes, we already know of the logs in our own eyes.
Most of us at some point, we have been in relationships that have been intoxicating and tiresome. At the end of the same we were able to pick a thing plus that when going to the next one, we are sure to watch out for. It can be a good thing or a baggage that will let you have no peace. For an instance a story of this beautiful lass who has been a number of intoxicating and abusive relationship, therefore carried things to every other relationship she began. She became paranoid at everything her new guy did. When he would ask about stuffs, probably in a harmless inquiry but she would draw her own conclusions without understanding every ninja has his own shortcomings and deficiencies. She would doll up all these secrets and opinionated ideas about men species in the universe probably to worst end. Most times relationships wither away because couples choose not to talk. They conjure all kinds of emotions, bear hatred and eventually become disinterested with each other. Am a believer that total and open communication concerning the tiniest bit of discomfort such as ..You asking me how I got these shoes without thinking I could buy them myself or why go through mails in my phone without considering I don’t touch your phone. (some mistrust right there). Talk about just anything.
I wish we could all muster the art of rational reasoning, that is careful consideration before acting. I know for sure people do commit mistakes, some worth forgiving others just too violating but still we ought to be sane about everything. In relationships at times couples get careless and do disgraceful things to their pact such philandering, physical and emotional abuse among others. These can push stress levels to unimaginable heights consequently leading to persons resorting to extreme measures. Am hoping we can all learn to deal with issues with all the sanity we can personally amass. I cannot begin to explain the pain one undergoes in such times due to dynamism of each relationship but one thing that should be agreed upon is constantly learning to be amicable. If one day we could all walk through the streets with our thoughts transparent, I trust we could all go home appreciating the little murk on our soles because out there, there are people waist deep in shit. My verdict, we can never have relationship problems too much bigger for this life, so switch your phone off, listen to music and talk to a friend lest we snap.
I ain’t a relationship guru here (I would leave that to Chris Hart, he found this), I was just giving this my two cent angle.
Omoto musings 